Hello <>,

Our stories are running us. We’re really getting down to the secret of life here! Certainly, it’s the secret of change. You see, we are not driving our own car. We’re essentially passengers. Our stories are driving the car. We’re along for the ride.

We’ve all got our stories. Some create desired outcomes. Keep those. Those are OK. Some create undesired outcomes. Hmm, I think I might want to get rid of those.

Those stories ARE running the show. Let’s look at two alternative approaches for dealing with them.

Surface level – This is what almost everybody is trying to do. Trying to create something new from an old story that stands squarely in the way. It can’t be done. Not really. You’ve got old tapes playing and you’re going to try to do something different, create different outcomes. We read a book, work with a consultant, we understand what to do. And Transformation doesn’t happen. Nothing seems to stick. The best we can hope for is just a revised version of the same thing we had before.

You can’t create big on the outside from an inner story that has never worked in the first place.

Inner level – Once we clean up the story that’s not working. Clean up that old ineffective, cluttered up, or downright destructive story. Programming that’s been operating in the shadows of your life. Once you get that out in the light of day and out of the way. The rest starts to get easy.

Outer transformation comes from inner transformation. Not many people seem to understand this. Or they don’t know how to do it.

Bottom line – If you’ve been reading all these pearls of wisdom, you’ve heard me acknowledge that people think change is hard. And my typical response that change really isn’t hard. People have convinced themselves it is because they have no system for change. They’ve been trying to change the outer while continuing to run the same set of inner tapes.

So, if I keep trying what doesn’t work. In other words, trying different outer tactics but still running from programming that prevents change. Yeah, if I do that long enough, I’ll become convinced the creation I want just can’t happen. Maybe I’ll get back to it later (when hell freezes over).